Can Anyone Really Tell If A Girl Or A Woman Is A Virgin? – Part 1.

Find out the answer to this question in this three-part story series.

Let’s get started!

A 27-year-old Indian guy wrote to an agony columnist known as Dr. Nerdlove concerning his fiancé, whom I guess looks as beautiful as the woman on this page.

He told Dr. Nerdlove that he was engaged to a 23-year-old girl as part of an arranged marriage and that the girl claims to be a virgin.

The guy went further to say that he inserted his two fingers into his lover’s vagina during foreplay and his penis during the main game and was disappointed to discover that she was too loose ‘down there.’

“I have had sex with around 10 girls, and nobody was that loose even after we had had sex for, like, 200 times,” added the guy.

Because of that experience, the guy finds it difficult to believe that his fiancée is a virgin as she claimed, hence he wrote Dr. Nerdlove for help.

Here’s the answer the guy got from Dr. Nerdlove.

“Let’s start with your fiancée’s ‘looseness.’

“Genitalia come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Just as penises can range from the very small to the very large, so can vaginas.

“Women can have deep vaginal canals or shallow ones. Men can have narrow penises or thick ones, just as women can have naturally narrow or wide vaginas.

“But here’s the thing about women and vaginas: a woman’s “tightness” has absolutely nothing to do with the amount of sex they have or haven’t had.

“The vaginal walls are a muscle and they’re incredibly elastic; after all, they’re designed to let a baby pass through.

“Your penis ain’t the size of a baby, no matter how many times you’ve put it in someone.

“To put it another way: think of all the times you’ve eaten food. Sometimes it’s been as small as a piece of popcorn.

“Other times it’s been something large enough that you’ve had to unhinge your jaw like a snake.  Has your mouth stretched out of shape?

“No. No, it has not.

“There are three things that affect vaginal tightness: childbirth, arousal, and specific exercises involving the pelvic floor.

“The vagina does, in fact, get stretched during child-birth, but (in younger women anyway) it re-tightens post-partum. After around six to eight months, a woman’s vagina feels the same it did before.

“Women in their late 30s and 40s can have issues due to age affecting the elasticity of the muscles and women who’ve had many, many children can seriously fatigue the vaginal muscles.

“But again, I would remind you: it doesn’t matter how big your penis (or anyone’s really) may or may not be, it’s not as big as a baby.

“Arousal is another set of circumstances that can affect vaginal tightness.

“See, a tight vagina is NOT a sign of sexual inexperience, it’s a sign that she’s not aroused.

“Arousal causes the vaginal muscles to relax and open to better accommodate an erect penis and facilitate impregnation.

“So, a woman whose vagina is open and well-lubricated is a woman who’s very aroused while a woman who’s tight is one who’s tense, not in the mood or dealing with someone who sees foreplay as “brace yourself, I’m going in.”

So, to answer your question: no, the relative dimensions of your fiancée’s genitalia do not tell you whether or not she’s a virgin.

And while we’re at it: a hymen or lack thereof is no indicator of virginity either.

Many women won’t have a hymen, or barely have one in the first place.  Other times, it may have been torn through simply being active and athletic. So that’s not a reliable indicator of virginity either.

Is your fiancée a virgin? Who knows.

And to be perfectly frank, does it really matter that much to you? You’re starting a relationship with this woman and having a successful marriage means putting in the effort.

Starting things off by calling her a liar and slut-shaming her?

That’s really not a great beginning to a marriage.

Can Anyone Really Tell If A Girl Or A Woman Is A Virgin? – Part 1.

*This post was reviewed by Dr. Margaret Bradwell.

...to be continued.

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